The Secret to Great Relationships is ... in your Bathroom

Sometimes we feel like other people are making life difficult for us. Being mean to us. Judging us. Blaming us.

That makes us feel angry, hurt or sad inside and may cause us to react in an unkind way. Then, we realize we shouldn't have reacted unkindly and have to apologize for our mistake.

What if I told you there was a better way. An easier way. A more holistic way. One that will feel like magic when you try it. One that is the secret to having great relationships.

What I'm about to say may come as a shock. But when someone else is making you feel angry or hurt -- the best thing to do is stop and look in the mirror.

Why? Because everyone around you is simply reflecting you back to you.

Whew. Can you wrap your head around that? Everyone around you is reflecting you back to you.

When you understand that other people are only a reflection of yourself, you will find there is no room for blame, judgement or being the victim of another's words. The beauty in all of this is that this secret will help you grow into the person God wants you to be.

Let's look at an example: I had a client who felt like one of her friends was a very critical judge of everything she did, and it was making her really angry. Once she uttered that statement, I stopped her and had her ask herself, "Where am I being judgmental right now?" The first thing that came to her mind was that she was being judgmental of herself for where she was at in her career -- not as high up as she had imagined.

By being judgmental of herself, my client was attracting judgement from others -- especially this particular friend. But the truth is that she was hurting herself more than any other person was hurting her. Once she cleaned up the judgement within herself and started treating herself with more love, compassion and understanding, the perceived judgement from her friend ceased to exist.

If you need more proof that this secret is true, think about this. Have you ever noticed a pattern with problems in your relationships? Always the same problem? The same insecurities? Well, guess what? You are the common denominator. To get to the root of the cause, you have to be the change you wish to see.

I'm not saying this is easy, but you can do it! If you would like the help of a coach to guide you along, let me know!

Achieving Life Balance Isn't As Difficult As You Think

It's something we're all after. Balance. Trying to juggle everything we need and want to do to make ourselves and those around us happy.

It may seem like you're going to fall over at any time, but you can fee like you're walking on air instead if you put your mind to it.

Certified Master Life Coach Mir Lynne Pietrzyk and I are holding a teleclass on the first and third Wednesday of every month to teach the basic principles of life balance.

As a way of showing you how beneficial the class is, we are offering you a chance to listen to one class for free!

You can listen from your phone by dialing: (605) 477-2199. Enter access code: 667226#. Enter reference number 1. Enjoy!

If you like it, you can sign up for future classes by emailing lynne@shiftandwakeup.com. Just tell her you'd like to sign up for the life balance course!

Life Balance Teleclass Starts April 3

Announcing a new Life Balance teleclass! Put your life in balance and increase your happiness!

The benefits of the course are that you will clear the clutter from your life, create an action plan to achieve your goals and receive the assistance and accountability of not one, but two Certified Master Life Coaches -- Mir Lynne Pietrzyk and myself.

The class will be fun and engaging – something to look forward to! Consider it your bi-weekly “pick-me up!”

The Class will focus on three primary areas.

• Clearing the Clutter – Participants will clear the clutter out of their lives and gain clear vision of their true goals and life purpose.

• Activating Action – Participants will learn how to apply powerful, simple and effective action strategies to their goals.

• Living Your New Life – Participants will begin enjoying the benefits of action and learn how to stick with the plan when resistance kicks in.

The course will be held via teleclass:

Date: The First and Third Wednesday of every month, starting April 3, 2013

Time: 11 a.m. CST/Noon EST until Noon CST/1 p.m. EST

Location: Via teleclass, call in information will be provided at registration

RSVP: Call Lynne at 239-253-2884 or email lynne@shiftandwakeup.com

COST: $35/session if six sessions are purchased, $40/session if four sessions are purchased, $45/session if sessions are purchased one at a time.

As a bonus, each participant will receive a complimentary one-hour coaching session with a Certified Master Life Coach for each six sessions purchased. Also, we have set up a private Facebook group for participants to engage in dialogue and as a place for us to give you additional information.

We also have a FREE gift for you right now – we recorded a sample class. We’d love for you to listen to it so you can see how much it can help you. Visit this link to download it: http://rs1975.freeconferencecall.com/fcc/cgi-bin/share.mp3/6054772100-667226-1.mp3.

Then, if you love it, register by contacting Lynne at 239-253-2884 or lynne@shiftandwakeup.com.

Feel free to share the free download with friends and family! Let’s get a dynamic group going here!

Guest Post About Living With Alcoholism

Dear Friends, Today I am posting a guest blog from a friend who is experiencing the hurt caused by the disease of alcoholism. I am honored to post this article in the hopes that it gives therapy to the writer and hope to others affected by this disease. You are not alone.

Alcoholism...If there is an alcoholic in your life, like mine, you know it is like a cancer to that relationship. I live with the alcoholic in my life. I love the alcoholic in my life.

The alcoholic in my life knows her drinking habits aren't healthy, but she has not admitted there is a dependency on alcohol – this is the key difference between alcohol abuse and alcoholism.

The alcoholic in my life is what experts call a “functional alcoholic” – she hasn't put others in danger or caused any physical damage, but the emotional damage runs deep.

Alcoholism is a disease like no other – there is no cure, and there is nothing you can do to start the recovery for someone else. What you can do is take care of yourself. One way to start is to seek out help from organizations like Alcoholics Anonymous, Al-Anon or Change my Relationships. They will get you on the right path.

Personally, I believe the Al-Anon organization is genius! The first few meetings are hard, and you think the group is not for you. One of their sayings is, "After a while, you'll discover that though you may not like all of us, you'll love us in a very special way, the same way we already love you." This is true.

Also, the Serenity Prayer is one of the best first steps I took. After saying it a couple of times, and taking quiet moments to reflect on my day's actions, I have changed how I live with the alcoholic in my life. I have started to live in better harmony with the disease. Make no mistake, this is the toughest thing I've done, and I am nowhere near good at it, but imperfect progress is the olive branch, and it works.

Another hard thing I'm learning is the 3 C's – and I do not mean color, clarity and carat! The 3 C's of addiction are cure, cause and control. This is difficult for me because I am a control freak. But I have learned this disease is something I can’t control.

I also can’t control this person’s actions. In fact, trying to do so would be a very bad idea. The only thing I can do is approach her when she is sober and say, "When you do _____, it makes me feel hurt."

I am also learning about the abstract idea of “detachment with love.” How do I detach my emotions around the disease from the person and treat the person with the love and respect every human being deserves? Especially one that I loved and respected before this unfortunate disease took hold. If I can figure this one out, I deserve a Ph.D. in something equally abstract.

I can't cure the alcohol addiction in the person I love. It has to be her choice. I hope and pray she will hit rock bottom and seek treatment, but there is no timetable for this – months, years, or more years. Only imperfect progress can help one get through this seemingly infinite time span.

I've babbled enough for a blog that is usually short, sweat and profound. I do have more to share, and this small part has been incredibly therapeutic. Thank you for allowing me to be a guest on this site. If there is a person close to your heart, or in your life, with an addiction, I hope you can find a piece of serenity while dealing with the disease.

Sincerely, A Loving Husband and Father 

New Life Balance Webinar Starts March 20

I am excited to announce a new webinar course I am co-teaching with my business partner, Certified Master Life Coach Mir Lynne Pietrzyk. The name of the course is “Life Balance” and the purpose is to help you find more happiness in life!

The benefits of the course are that you will clear the clutter from your life, create an action plan to achieve your goals and receive the assistance and accountability of not one, but two Certified Master Life Coaches to help you stick with your plan. 

The timing couldn't be better! Spring is right around the corner -- a time when many people work on clearing physical clutter from their lives. This course will help you clear the mental clutter and start with a fresh, clean slate as we move into the warmth of summer.

The Class is divided into three consecutive six-week sessions.

Session 1: Clearing the Clutter – Participants will clear the clutter out of their lives and gain clear vision of their true goals and life purpose.

Session 2: Activating Action – Participants will learn how to apply powerful, simple and effective action strategies to their goals.

Session 3: Living Your New Life – Participants will begin enjoying the benefits of action and learn how to stick with the plan when resistance kicks in.

The course will be held via webinar:

Date:                       Wednesdays, from March 20, 2013 – July 17, 2013

Time:                       11 a.m.  CST/Noon EST until Noon CST/1 p.m. EST

Location:                Via Webinar, information will be provided at registration

RSVP:                       Call Lynne at 239-253-2884 or email lynne@shiftandwakeup.com

COST:                       $210 per six-week session. Payment options are available.

This class will be capped at 15 participants for quality assurance.

As a bonus, each participant will receive a complimentary one-hour coaching session with a Certified Master Life Coach during each six-week session of the program – that’s three FREE one-on-one coaching sessions, a value of $225. We are putting together a complimentary meditation recording for each participant, as well!

To register or for more information, contact me at 239-253-2884 or lynne@shiftandwakeup.com.

ABOUT THE FACILITATORS

Mir Lynne Pietrzyk is a Certified Master Life Coach, Master Life Path Guide, Shaman and Healer. She has taken an oath to walk the path of a Spiritual Guide, Teacher and Healer for the greatest good of all humanity. Her passion is for helping her clients discover and unfold their spiritual gifts. Pietrzyk is the founder and CEO of Shift and Wake Up, LLC, through which she offers clients the following classes and services at the Heart and Soul Spiritual Center in Fort Myers: How to Discover Your Life Path and Purpose, Sourcing Your Reality, Decoding Life, Wheel of Life Readings, Birth Year Readings, Reiki sessions and Pure Light Blessings. She is also a talk radio host, workshop leader, speaker, visionary, and positive thinker. Visit http://www.shiftandwakeup.com for more information.

Tina Haisman, APR, CPRC is an award-winning public relations consultant and freelance writer with more than 16 years of experience. In 2010, Haisman decided one career was not enough and launched Love of Life Coaching after she became a Certified Master Life Coach. Being coached by a life coach is what inspired Haisman to become one, because she saw first-hand the difference a life coach can make in someone’s life. Her goal is to make memories out of every day, and that is precisely what she does while managing two businesses, two children, a husband and a household. Visit http://www.lolcoaching.blogspot.com.