How You Can Grow or Repair Your Relationships With Service

Have you ever asked yourself why your friend, spouse, child or parent is treating you a certain way?

Have you ever caught yourself saying, "I need something more from them."

Have you ever tried to tell this person what you need without any real results?

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Perhaps it is time to learn about the service mentality in relationships. The service mentality says we give what we want to receive.

It seems counterintuitive. Especially if you are frustrated in a relationship. You might think, "How can I give more love, when I am feeling all out of it." or "Why should I have to do all of the work?"

The answer is because it works!

The benefits of living a life of service are soul-filling.

When we focus more on serving those around us, it actually makes us feel happier, more self-confident, and more energetic. It just feels good.

Can you remember the last time you did something nice for someone else? Didn't it feel good?

Maybe you let someone cut in front of you in traffic.

Perhaps you picked up your husband's dry cleaning for him.

Or maybe you bought a small gift for a friend, just because.

The fact is that it feels good to do something nice for someone else.

Also, it takes the focus off of yourself and helps you walk away from your pity party. (No offense! We all have them!)

Today, I would like to encourage you to pick one relationship and look for the opportunity to serve that person. Can you find at least one way to go out of your way for him or her for the next 7 days?

Call it an experiment and let me know how it goes!